Thoughts on Family and Elisa Lam


A couple of days ago my mum was reading an old edition of a magazine and decided to give me some life tips, as she usually does whenever she decides to read out an article for me from said Chinese magazine.

In any case, that article alluded to the case of Elisa Lam, a 21 year old girl from British Columbia, Vancouver travelling in California and was found dead in a water tank above her hotel in late February. There's been a great deal of speculation online about what happened to her pending the details of her autopsy and tests, however just the case itself is not what I wanted to cover here.

From what my mother pointed out to me and the scant English quotes from what seem to be her Tumblr now, she seemed to be somewhat like me, wanting to explore the world before her but restricted by her parents. Of course, reading up online paints an entirely different story, looking into her problems with depression, anxiety and so on. I have to wonder whether the magazine is misrepresenting her, but I wouldn't be surprised either if it is just more sensationalist journalism.

One of the quotes I remember seeing in the article was from here:


And other quotes similar to some of the things contained in this post and what appears to be Facebook posts I have no way of accessing that alluded to the (what she considered) excessive worry which her parents had for her. My mother decided to take the opportunity to point out that all Asian parents acted this way and that the girl died as a result of not listening to her parents and staying at home. That her parents were right and as a result of her disobedience, she died.

Normally I don't have an issue with the things that are told to me, but being told that she died as a result of her rebelliousness does not strike the right note at me.

Next Magazine, HK

I've just spent a little while looking up articles and speculation on the internet and can see a whole bigger picture here. Not for the first time will I conclude that my parents sometimes have a very narrow perspective that is rooted in traditional thinking that I sadly usually cannot relate to and have a tendency to over-worry about very minute things. However if the magazine itself is twisting the situation in a particular light (I can't read it, of course, since it's entirely in Chinese), then this is nothing new, is it? It's just the state of journalism today, isn't it? Of course, this advice is coming from a parent who watches and trusts what comes out of Today Tonight....

In any case, I hope the the case can be resolved soon and Elisa's family can get some answers for what happened to their daughter. It's a shame that such a thing happened to such a clever, vibrant and lovely girl.

Image of Misaki Mei of Another from Konachan.

Update: The funny thing is that while I'm scrolling through what other people have compiled of her posts and their commentaries on the things Elisa have written, all I can think of is how invasive it all is. Sure, we all want answers, but all the same...